I Will Fly

Women's Day comes every year with aplomb and is celebrated all over and that it is routine as usual. This year too the same happened and I am here asking myself - is it just that much and its over. One day of chocolates, of speeches, dinners and gifts of appreciation and then gone.

Every single day it is not like nothing is changing but neither is it like a lot is changing.
Still the questions remain unchanged, the stereotyped ones. Those moulded in one kiln for all kinds. The typical ones set aside for us women, "Don't be out late" "don't indulge in arguments" "is this what you wearing" Why are you cutting your hair so short, does your husband like it that way ?" " Is your father/husband okay with you doing that?" #don't travel alone" "When you getting married or having kids?" "you drink omg " "don't drink openly" Don't swear". This mentality is not changing. These questions and heap loads of similar ones haunt women across borders all over. Its more or less constant.

We are brought up with set of values which are imprinted and we need to continue with them, why so? If you negate, you are a rotten apple or a rebel with no cause. Why are women made to feel guilty for not cooking well, cleaning well or doing it all. Belittled on their appearance - too bold sometimes for your liking, sometimes its too plain and at others just not bothered.
No matter what others seem to have a bigger opinion than we ourselves. A simple short haircut becomes a matter of great discussion. How is my marriage or having kids got anything to do with a whole bunch of people I barely know. Why is it that If I am very successful I am a whore? Why am I typecast? Why everyone has an opinion of what I do in my life? So much of judgement on our life, choices, marriage, dating, dressing, capabilities, decisions, children, on just being.

We can live without this drama. Have we even asked you what we want or your opinion in every single aspect of our being or is it that we just don't know how to live.
Let us be, Let us bloom, we are different, we have a voice and we will use it. Let us fly and soar high. If you don't let us be, we have wings and we shall fly no matter what. Women need to uplift each other and break this shackles of age old mentality. Its time we support our kind. After all it takes  strong women who support other women to be strong and Strong women to raise stronger women.

Its time to celebrate not one day but its time to celebrate our self however we are - perfect imperfections of our beautiful being, finding our way, opening our wings, blooming and living on our own terms every single moment.
Every day is this fight fought in every way, together we shall celebrate us after all we are the creators and the Shakti behind it all. So lets create our stronger self and rise for - being ... just being who we are without question and it all.

xoxo

Bhakti 

We Think We Have Time.

The trouble is we think we have time - Buddha

Its such a short and simple line with the meaning staring at us in the most honest sense however we steadfastly deny to accept it on its face.
We live for tomorrow, we are ingrained to think about future about past mistakes.
We seldom live in today. Whatever we do its always for the betterment of future never today. Honestly, who will see tomorrow do we know. Do we even know how much will we live and in what condition. Then why dont we live in today.
I take rest today and not on the weekend. I deserve that chocolate today. Let me wear the nice dress today and not save it for a special occassion. Take that vacation, learn new things, spend quality time with loved ones.
Who knows how much time do we have. So I will make my time beautiful now. Live life fully now. Not holding grudges, forgiving now, exercising now, loving now, Living now cause time is just a mirage and we are caught in its magic.
Plan for tomorrow but live today.
Don't think about what can happen in a month or a year. Just focus on today and make it beautiful, do the best you can to reach where you want to be cause all we have is now. So why take anyone and anything for granted. Life is unpredictable but beautiful nevertheless, its precious and so are we.
Let everyday be like the last day ever and life certainly will be big if not long and beautiful.
On that note I am sharing an outfit close to my heart and style and easy breezy look in my favorite shade pink and its a pale pink.

Bag - Victoria Secrets 

Denims- Levi's

Top - Roadster

Footwear- Footin

Watch- Tommy 

Neckpiece - Romwe 

xoxo

Bhakti 

Why Girls Love Winter / Autumn

Winter is magic and why you ask - Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home.- Edit Sitwell 

Winter is time to warm the shackles of our heart, for that cozy touch and cold breath to mingle by the hot bonfire.. 

Winter is for so many things and quite a favorite with all the lady folks.

Listen carefully its not a hoax. 

Hot Chocolate 

Date with hot chocolate and marshmallows.

Books 

Reading in a warm spot all tucked in. 

Playing footsie with cutesie leg warmers and socks 

Soupy mugs .. 

Winter comfort food

Hot bowls of Maggi and momos for those hunger pangs.

coffee dates and long drives

Hot coffee 

Now who doesnt need a warm hug in a mug.

Sweaters and beanies.. 

Lets remove our winter layers stash - those cute pullovers. 

Chai 

Early morning tea time whilst taking in those warm sunrays 

Bbq nights

Bonfires 

And the stories and music and all the fervour around it all.. 

Cozy candles

Cozy chilled afternoon naps or just tucking your toes in your favorite blanky- nothing can compare to those warm snuggles. 

Winter sales

Winter is the time to shop with crazy sales and offers everywhere.

Lets loot... 

Festive fervour..

All the festivities in the air..  

So enjoy the winters and everything along with it.

xoxo
Bhakti

I want to be a Superwoman

I wish sometimes I was a superwoman .. 

Well I am not talking about women who are superb these days juggling home, career and simultaneously leading a fulfilled, and (well so called) accomplished life.
I am referring here to the Superwoman who swishes in the air, without worrying of juggling 20 things at a time on the point of a breakdown ..
Doing what she does best at a time that makes her the happiest. She is at par or even better than Superman and has the job of defending the world. She is celebrated, loved and appreciated.
She takes care of others but she knows that she needs to take care of herself first and she does so.
She is intelligent and sensitive at the same time.
She doesnt need assurance nor does she need to compete in a race for equality with no one. She herself is a competition. She just wants to be happy and is.
She knows when to ask for help and doesnt beat herself for being miss knowing it all.
She knows how to pull herself up rather than waiting for someone else to do so.

I think I would prefer to be a Superwoman than today's superb woman with an endless task list, multitasking their every aspect of life without appreciation, being taken for granted and without knowing their limitation. Exhausting herself without getting recharged on her sun.
Most of the times today's superb woman is her own kryptonite cause she forgets to love herself.

I prefer to be a Superwoman : fight battles, be the hero and take the accolades, rather than battle it out every time for everything like a superb woman cause she is playing dual roles one career wise and other at the home front without even recognition of doing much more.
Cant even imagine or may be I can hence I want to be a superwoman who doesn't have to do it all. 

So here I am trying to be a superwoman..

Knowing that I can do anything but I cant do everything at the same time. Choosing my battles wisely and sanely staying away from kryptonites. Just being happy and taking my happiness in my own hands. Choosing how I fight and what for. I don't have to be best in everything but I have to give my best at what I am doing. Being happy and spreading happiness.
Best shot at living and best shot at safeguarding my well being. 

 Wish I could just zoom in the air .. now dont you ?

xoxo

Bhakti 

Outfit details 

T shirt - bandra high street 

Denims - Mango 

Glares - Vero Moda 

Belles - High Street 

Watch - Fast track 

Two Timing, Am I ?

Today let me take you with me on a small part of our Road trip.

For those who follow me it's no surprise and you guys already know it from all the posts and my random rants that I am a nature girl at heart ... 

In nature I lose myself and find myself again .. I breathe.. I rejuvenate .. 

And this feeling was strengthened and factualised by our recent road trip which we were advised strongly against by our Dr. Reason - I was very weak with low bp. Which was lower than low and I was advised strict bed rest. Still me being me went with the trip  ( well in my defence everything was booked and this trip was planned from a long time and we were in such anticipation and I love road trips and Goa ) as I thought we 'll do it as it's just from Pune to Goa... ( well that was irresponsible but adventurous though ) 

The whole way hubby took care of me like no ones business. Fussing about my rest, my meds, my snacks, ( could I get any luckier, touchwood I have won myself  a jackpot ) Coaxing me to sleep but no sooner than we took to the forests and mountains they just kept me going and like that .. like just that.. I was feeling so live. The magic of nature is marvellous beyond understanding ... it's wonderful, just leaves one astonished at it's beauty, sights, abundant life and a strong will to keep growing to keep living and giving. 

The crisp air, the smell of moss laden trees, gurgling waterfalls, chirping birds,  what's there not to like... not to fall in love.. not to be fully alive and aware.. not to replenish and rejuvenate every sense of the body. 

I was healed ... if not completely ... in my mind ... in my will to be one with nature .. in spirit.. I was one with nature.

It helped me like it does always. It loved and accepted and nourished me like it does always...
I wanted to get out of the car, touch the leaves, feel the cool gurgling water, smell the wild daisies.

Just like that my love affair continued .... ❤

With my hubby as well as nature... I was two timing and how ... but sometimes a girl just gotta do what she gotta do. 😉

Monkeying around, are we ?

Mountains are calling ...

Specks of green..

And I did get out of the car... didn't get to play in the waterfall, well whom was I kidding .. I got out and just that was enough to get a smile to my sick, tired af face.
P.S. how cute is he 😋

I want to be here forever in these mountains, where my soul belongs amidst nature.

The Magic of Mystical Mountains beckons me on ...

Forever a mountain Girl ...

They have my Heart...

Check out this small video ... a glimpse of magic ...

on that note ..

xoxo
Bhakti

February Love the Princess way ..

Its no secret that I love February...  cause its the month of my Birthday... so much love around, month of valentine.. Its like celebrations begin truly for the new year.

I treat myself like a princess (we all do, don't we ;p), especially in Feb and go all out to pamper myself  (as if I don't do that the whole year round) However you will definitely agree with me when I say that birthdays invoke magic and happiness to the brim.

There is a natural Glow from within and everyone is super sweet, even if they have to make extra efforts ;p hehe....

So I decided to start February with a Princess Post ...

because

THERE IS A PRINCESS

INSIDE ALL OF US

cause in the end its all about who we all are on the inside.....

Now this gown really made me feel like a princess. I got it made for a Sangeet function. The design was mine and I got it tailored from a really good designer. I always like something light, comfortable and easy with aplomb - so here is my answer to it.she indeed did a great job,the gown was exactly how I envisioned and more. She really does beautiful garments- you can Check her link below.

Pink is my favourite and some sparkle always goes a long way.

Paired it with silver peep toe wedges, diamond jewellery, shell clutch and kept the look fresh and minimal.

I wanted beautiful pretty girly tresses so I turned to this youmf Hairstylist who I know from a very long time and I Love her WorK and Oh I how I love my hairdo she did .. 😍 dreamy ❤ I have linked her profile below, you can definitely Check her out. 

And the last one had to be with my Prince who always always sweeps me off my feet even when I am soaring high up in the sky.❤

Let me know if you like my look.

Gown - Designed

Bag - Taj Boutique Goa

Hair - Pooja Baldev Styling

Costume Designer - Reshma Amalani 

Make up - me

Let me know if you want to see the full detailed make up and get ready with me for this look.

P.S - Birthday post coming soon, stay tuned

Until we meet again...

Wear your tiara with panache and princess up . 👑👸

xoxo

Bhakti

Girly things, what are they ?

Coffee and conversations just blend in together and when you are having coffee with your friends there is no dearth of either one.

Over the weekend I had coffee with friends and we sat for ages talking about myriad topics under the sky. We were generally discussing vacationing and the topic of how girls have their girly traits and are not ideal partners for vacation and a guys trip is more fun at any given time came up. I think most of us have this notion and many other notions on girly things or what girls do. 

My guy friends mentioned about how girls are not that spontaneous and take eons to get ready and till that time the time to do something has passed. 

They also said that how girls are more needy and demanding. They are picky and do not adjust. They complain and are dramatic. 

I begged to differ big time. 

I think these qualities and attributes are not particular for any one gender, they are mixed human qualities. They ain't necessarily girly attributes. 

This stuff is basically more stereotyped by society. We grew up in a world where girls and boys were and in many places are still being brought up with values which in future make for their attributes. It's the society that drills these attributes and then it's the society that again tags them on to any one gender. 

Example- it's girly to cry, girls were/are told to sit/stand/behave in respecting ways, take more time to be presentable and well groomed at all times, being perfect, being delicate, always listening to others, respecting others more, asking for your needs. Where as boys are the decision makers, the tough ones, indestructive, breadwinners, never to cry and so on. 

I am sure you got my drift by now. 

I am sure we won't raise our children this way in today's time.

But all this was imposed and then tagged on as being any one kind of traits related to that gender. We were taught these things. However in today's world where there is so much of knowledge, so much of exposure, so much independence, do these things hold true? Do these tags and brackets justifying our personalities and gender hold true? 

I see men crying, being sensitive, caring, understanding, so is this a man being girly? 

I know guys who bitch and gossip more than girls, so is that not normal for them? 

Couples earn equally, I know some who earn less than their wife, so is that a big deal? 

Men today give importance to their appearance, take time to get ready and are well groomed at par with women and sometimes even better than them. Is that girly? 

Women are earning, independent. Can go on solo trips and are actually loving the idea. They are chilled out. I know so many women, who are just spontaneous and wild. I, myself love to live in the moment. So all these traits ain't girly, so these women are boyish, are they? Women are the most adjusting creatures I have ever seen, put them anywhere and they will survive. 

It is so wrong to characterise a person based on his gender. Everyone has different traits and qualities those which are unique to that person and that doesn't necessarily make it girly or not. 

It depends on the nature of a person whether that person is picky, demanding, complaining, taking more time to get ready infact today's woman doesn't have the gift of time in her hand as she is always multitasking and gets ready in a jiffy, again this doesn't go for all and neither does taking eons to get ready goes for all. Basically we can't keep everyone in the same bracket. One doesn't fit for all and all don't fit in one. 

Girls today are going on bike trails from one state to another and even beyond. They are mountaineers, they love offbeat trips. They are boho travellers. They love to explore and are pretty good at it. 

One can't say that all guy trips are more fun and girls spoil them. 

I don't deny that every person has different definition of fun. 

But one secret which isn't a secret is 

GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE FUN!! 

ending on a light note. 

Outfit details 

Top - courtesy limeroad 

Denims- Levi's 

Accessories- Pink pvssy 

Glares - Forever 21 

Shoes- Catwalk 

Bag - Lifestyle 

Cheers and sunshine to all. 

Until next time. 

xoxo

Bhakti